Lives of Unmarried Women in their 30’s and 40’s

30~40대 미혼 여성의 그늘
In Korea, of 7.80 milion women in their 30’s and 40’s. 17.176% or 1.38milion are singls.
Now in the 21st century marriage is no longer a necessity but rather an option, and many women choose to remain single.
Yet, there is not enough social security for them, creating a blind spot of the structural system. Let’s learn more about the issue, and what needs to be done to improve the current conditions.
Jeong Eun-mi is a 41 year-old florist who dreamed of becoming a good wife and wise mother as a child. Like the majority of people, she thought she had to get married and form a family when she was younger.
But her perspective has changed a lot.

“I gained a genuine passion and desire for my career in my early 30’s. Therefore, I naturally focused more on my work than romantic relationships, and time passed very quickly.”

Jeong is not the only one who chooses to remain unmarried. Many women in their 30’s and 40’s do, too.
According to the National Statistical Office, 1 million 384 thousand and 47 women in their 30’s and 40’s were single as of 2015, and that figure is more than twice that of 10 years ago.
The drastic jump largely resulted from women’s increased labor force participation.
Also, Korea remains a patriarchal society.

“Marriage is not only a union of two lovers but of families, which I found very burdensome.
I wasn’t sure if I could take care of all the things that occur in my husband’s family while pursuing my career.”

Currently, 40% of female workers have irregular jobs and earn about US$1,500 per month on average.
Indeed, the low income has a negative influence on housing stability.

“The majority of single women live alone, and their residential environments vary depending on economic status.
Naturally, there are concerns about women being targets of sexual assault and other crimes, especially for those living in poorer areas, as it is clear that the number of violent crimes against women has been increasing recently.”

A recent survey conducted by the Seoul metropolitan government on women in their 40’s and 50’s living alone, only 36.9% responded that they were preparing for old age.
Also, 81.2% of them answered that they were unable to prepare for their later years because they couldn’t afford to do so. But there’s barely any governmental support for them.
39-year old Kim Hyun-joo works for the cooperative society of an animal hospital in Seoul.
And she mentioned that Korean single women are stuck in the blind spot of social welfare.
More than anything, the biggest fear comes from the fact that there are many structural limits if they suffer from any diseases.

“If I need medical surgery, only my direct family members are eligible to sign the consent form.
I currently live with my friend, who is single as well, but she would not be eligible to sign the form even if my life depended on it. ”

As a cat owner, Kim formed a gathering of fellow single women with animal companions.
The best thing about this gathering is that they have good neighbors to rely on in times of emergency, who also have the same interest and concerns.

“There are certain hardships we experience because we chose to remain unmarried.
We share those things, relate to one another and get healed along the way. ”

Outside the welfare system, single women have to find their own means to secure their futures, and they’re calling on a change in the family-centered social policies.

“Because the tax system, welfare policies, and even the medical insurance system are designed for families, they alienate unmarried women and single-person households.
Therefore, our society needs to find ways to embrace and support them rather than merely trying to treat the symptoms.”

For marriage to be truly an option for both genders, the general perception towards singles should be transformed along with new practical policies to meet their needs.

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25 Responses

  1. prasada1280 says:

    lack of confidence, avoidance of responsibility, unwillingness to adjust are some reasons why people remain single

  2. AnimeChannel says:

    It‘s their Choice, they have to Life with the consequences. It’s Even funny to watch hahaha …

  3. Kong Lor says:

    There's a reason why there unmarried red flag

  4. Sand Castles says:

    She looks 20

  5. izilife says:

    The wall hit em hard 😀


    Cats: stonks!.

  7. Brent Carl Suriaga says:

    Marriage is no longer a necessity but an option…. Bruh it has been like that ever since.

  8. live free says:

    women: career or family, there can only be one, choose wisely.

  9. dat_bad_captain says:

    Woah ..chu chu chu Cha chun chun Cha Cha chu ..that's asian

  10. shaska ocelot says:

    Living alone with no one holding you're hand from 35 to 85 years old is 18250 days. Feminism is truly something…

  11. Repu says:

    No one cares

  12. Justin M says:

    why is there even a story about this? they are strong powerful women, they don't need men.

  13. Dexster Smith says:

    This is so sad

  14. Rudra says:

    I wander if single man are having struggles as well. Do a man can find hard to be single, or are they happy with a full supportive laws to make them everything hard in a society that is designed to support families?

  15. hellofaplayer says:

    Dream life for females in my country

  16. Nihilist says:

    Many married people wish they were single and many single people wish they were married. A never ending cycle of life..

  17. christianxfb says:

    Nobody alienates no one old woman, what the hell is she talking about? They decided to focus on her careers, it was their bad choices in life that led them to this predicament. Men and women are meant to work together to avoid extinction, this is so obvious, if men dont marry they are gonna suffer, if women dont get married they also suffer, this has nothing to do with the fact they are women, this is what causes feminist ideas about empowered women. This is the real life women cmon, you defy nature and now they are worried about ageing and loneliness and government support. Give me a break, start a family already god damn it. These women who are career focused should stop watching youtube videos about feminism and all the illogical and illusion notions about patriarchy, pay gap etc this random bullshit that is thrown to us nowadays and focus on how to keep a good relationship, how to avoid divorce, how to keep family bonds instead. Men dont need someone who has a career. Men need someone who can take care of children and can look after the health condition of the family. There has been a number of studies and research about children and it says that single mother's children and children without a parental figure at home have less probability to succeed in life. This is a fact that anybody can research on the internet nowadays. Thats why the new generation is the weakest generation ever in human history.

  18. life after death says:

    Men and women are designed to be together, being alone cant be good!!

  19. Georgia Andrea says:

    I am 35, already have successful career myself and chose to not marry. Back in high school, I have decided to not get married because I don’t like relationship commitment and I’ve never like kids anyway. My activity during free time is still the same; video games. I have a PS5, so that’s my husband right there.

  20. Nadeem Hasan says:

    Social welfare for single women only??what about single men..??

  21. Dusan Ivkovic says:

    Who's gonna pay for your choices? You choose to stay single and work less paid job, who's fault it is that you can't survive on your own now?

  22. motorbikeray says:

    (0:44) Wow! She looks like a 25 year-old 41 year-old!

  23. Vishal Singh says:

    It becomes lonely after a time…

  24. BookOfMoon1 says:

    They have job and love being independent yet still bitch about shit.

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